Losing a boyfriend can certainly be devastating for a girl. Regardless of the reason, breakups can make girls feel unlovable, ugly and inadequate. This is why a lot of girls have a difficult time dealing with heartbreak. They not only lose the person they love, but a part of themselves as well. However, nobody wants to be stuck in this rut forever, and if you want to move forward, here are some tips to help you out.
Choose your own heartbreak therapy
Once the news that you’re single again reaches people close to you, they will offer advice on what you can do. However, some advice should not be followed, no matter how well-meaning. People cope with bad situations in different ways and if you do follow other people’s suggestions in dealing with heartbreak, make sure it is to try out what works for you. If you need a period of grieving on your own in order to feel better, then do that.
If shopping and going to a salon and spa is your way of coping, that’s acceptable to. You don’t have to rush things immediately after a breakup. There’s a time to grow strong again; for now, your main concern is finding ways to make yourself happy. Dealing with heartbreak takes time and you’ll know for certain when you’re ready to move on to the next phase.
Decide on which path to take
After you’ve recovered from the initial shock of the breakup, the next step in dealing with heartbreak is to know whether you want to completely move on, or give your relationship another shot. As a girl, the thought of initiating reconciliation with your ex may make you feel uneasy, but if the relationship is worth it, then you should give it a go. No matter what decision you make though, you must also try to become a better person, maybe not for your boyfriend’s sake, but for your own.
Heartbreaks can break a person’s self-esteem, and to escape that trap, you must look for ways to regain your confidence and self-worth. Your ex will mostly likely pick up on your positive and self-confident vibe, and if he’s interested he may even approach you again.
Be on good terms with your ex
You’ll never be truly successful in dealing with heartbreak if you harbor ill feelings towards your ex. Regardless of whether you get back together or not, hating him will only cause you to be bitter about love as a whole. This will have a negative effect on your future relationships, be it with your ex or a new guy. Once both of you are ready, you should try to set things right with your ex. This can also be a good opening if you want to get back together again.
Dealing with heartbreak isn’t easy but it will be more difficult for you in the long run if you don’t do something about it. If you let heartbreak get the better of you, you may even miss the chance of finding someone who is better suited for you.